So as you can see, my mind has been on other things this week. Please accept this adorable picture of a man and his puppy in lieu of a real post, and I promise I'll be back in two weeks with something of substance. ;)

BDSM is rapidly becoming a topic that, while I am not an expert and never will be, I am able to say I've formed opinions on. Slight background: I identify as a Dom (as an FYI, yes I am aware that it is Domme for female dominants. But it's my personal preference to say Dom) with some switch tendencies. So, it's something I feel I can talk about without sounding like a total dweeb.
Anyway somewhat long-winded beginning done, I discovered that there is an alarming lack of male submissive art. This isn't a new fact, no doubt. And hey, I might even be behind in talking about it. After all, there's already a website devote to it (in which I found my lovely pic): http://www.malesubmissionart.com/.
But the reason it caught my attention today was because of the absolutely ridiculous amount of female submission images. I tried to think of other images that relate directly to BDSM but you know what? If you Google anything on BDSM, it is likely that you will get an image result (or a thousand) of a bound and gagged woman. In fact, until I actually became actively interested in BDSM and met gay or male-identified practictioners, the first thing to pop in my head in relation to it was a bound woman. And the pre-requisite whips and chains and leather, yada.
Since then I've learned and written otherwise. Still, looking at those images, I'm not angry so much as I'm annoyed. There is a perceptinon about submissives that is already difficult to climb over, which is the idea that submissivs are weak or beholden to their Dom/me/Master/Mistress. But looking at the pictures on Google, I'm also baffled to see the idea that subs have to be feminine, if not female entirely.
Thinking on the stories I've read, the trend of subs tend to be slender, slim-hipped, short...or in any case, just weaker than the Dom in general. No, this doesn't mean that female subs are weaker in any way, shape or form. But let's also accept that the female gender is physically weaker than the male gender and therefore, the image of a feminine/girlish figure as a sub is a perfect visual stereotype for a submissive.
That doesn't mean it's right. A man, even the most masculine and butch male, can make a wonderful sub, visually and so on. This is another obstacle of m/m BDSM that needs to die as rapidly as the mind-reading, asshole Dom needs to. Subs come in every shape and size, male, female, genderqueer, and I think it's something those of us who write BDSM need to seriously work on bringing to the forefront.
I hope this made sense! So what do y'all think?
Daywalker Legacy
Secrets and Lies
After the near genocide of his race, Teague Johnson now spends his lifehiding in plain sight. In a city populated by humans and Nightfeedersalike, he and his brother are forced to cloak themselves in forgedhistories in order to blend in among the hierarchy of society.
Teague’s weekly trysts with Kyle Drake give him a reason toanticipate the future — until Kyle unexpectedly disappears. Afterward,Teague’s life is thrust under a microscope, endangering everything heholds dear. Allegiances are tested, and the lines of friendship blur ina race to stop an inhuman killer. Kyle’s fate hinges on Teague’sability to untangle the intricate web of secrets and lies before it’stoo late.
The Hard Truth
Blackmailed into claiming a birthright he doesn’t want, Cadge Johnsonis thrust into a world of politics and intrigue. His only ally is oldfriend and former lover, Red Taylor — a Nightfeeder he has kept atarm’s length for decades. The sordid past they share is nothingcompared to the trials ahead. After nearly a century of love, loss,murder, and deception, only the cold, hard truth will finally set themfree.
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Sometimes the internet seems like a great thing. Then….well, sometimes it can seem like everyone has it in for you. And, no, this is in response to something amusing and not directed at me.
I have always taken the attitude with the net that 90% of what gets written down is read in a way that the writer never intended. Mob rule and anonymity go into the mix as well. Pretty much the only thing you can do is laugh it all off.
So, I give you The Butt Hurt Complaint Form:
I am pleased to announce that my M/M short for All Romance eBook's 28 Days of Heart, GPS, is now available for pre-order! Proceeds from sales of this title are donated to the American Heart Association, along with the 27 other titles under this banner. GPS was a fun little story to write - it's been a while since I sat down to write a magical romantic comedy. I don't know if this would classify as contemporary fantasy, because there are elements in the story that may make a reader scratch her/his head and wonder. Either way, I hope you enjoy!
While we're waiting on that, I have a sneak preview of my upcoming Enter Sandman, the first in my unofficially named Metallarotica (heh) trilogy for Phaze Books.
Struck by insomnia, Len Crocker is desparate to try anything to get to sleep, even obtain the services of a mysterious living god, and probable huckster, known simply as The Sandman. When the object of Len's desires, Andrew Gibbons, springs for the nighttime session, Len is amazed by The Sandman's effectiveness...and pleasantly surprised with what he finds in his bed the next morning.Tired of the pulp eroticization of sexuality? Annoyed by the self-aggrandizement of sex bloggers? Want a more thoughtful, heartier, smarter approach to sexuality, society, culture, feminism, and queer activism? These are the droids you’re looking for. Kink On Tap is more than just a netcast about sexuality; it’s also a community of people for whom intelligent conversations about sexuality and how sexuality relates to other aspects of their lives is a motivating force for Doing Good.The show will air live on Sunday, January 17, 2010, 8pm Eastern-5pm Central http://live.kinkontap.com/ You can log in, listen and chat in real time during the show. Love to see you there!